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I was introduced to the Enneagram back in 2018 and while I love personality tests like Myers Briggs and StrengthsQuest the Enneagram feels different. You can read all about the history of the Enneagram in The Sacred Enneagram or from Enneagram Institute.
To figure out your type, you can either take a test online (I don’t recommend this) or by reading a book on the enneagram like The Road back to You from Suzanne Stabile and Ian Morgan Cron or The Sacred Enneagram from Christopher Heuertz.
Another option is to listen to Sleeping at Last’s Enneagram songs (Spotify Playlist Here) and listening to their podcast (Here). I’ve read 3 books on the enneagram and I’ve taken a few tests. I recommend reading the books and figuring out which of these types you relate to the most, when you do it this way you realize you will have tendencies of each type. You are not just one type. You have all the types inside of you, but your enneagram number is the one you relate with the most.
In the Enneagram there are 9 “Types”
1 The Perfectionist
2 The Advisor
3 The Achiever
4 The Individualist
5 The Thinker
6 The Guardian
7 The Optimist
8 The Challenger
9 The Mediator
I am a Four on the enneagram, I am that feelings person. I feel everything and it shows on my face 100% of the time. I can’t hide my true feelings if I try. And for anyone who knows me, I’m a crier. I cry when I’m happy, sad, angry, and so on. I attribute my crying to how deeply I feel the things around me. (I often ask how things make people feel, instead of what they think about something, it’s the most four-ish thing I say on a daily basis.) I often feel like no one else gets me, and finding people to connect with on a personal level is really hard, which is why I tend to come across as shy when meeting people for the first time. In times of stress Four’s disintegrate to a Two, I can be become overly involved and clingy! In times of growth Four’s integrate to a One, I tend to be more task oriented and principled.
Fours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences. From Enneagram Institute (https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-4)
In the enneagram you also have a wing, the number on either side of your enneagram number that you lean towards. So, I’m a Four with a Three wing. This type tends to be more sociable than other four types. We want to express ourselves creatively, make a meaningful social impact, have feelings of acceptance from others, and are motivated by personal or professional goals. I feel like my Three wing is what drives my Four creativity, my desire to meet goals & be an entreprenuer, to be accepted by others (but not compromising my personal values), make a meaningful impact through promoting fair trade & ethical fashion, sharing about human trafficking, and helping others to feel good about the clothes they wear.
More about 4w3, here
Next time, I’m going to share how understanding my Enneagram has helped me be a better employee and develop relationships. Have you ever heard of the Enneagram? Would you be interested in learning your number? What makes you apprehensive about personality tests?
One more thing, it’s important in the Enneagram to not assign others a number. While I do think I know what number my sister or my husband is. Only the individual can decide what their enneagram number is.